LISTEN YOUR WAY INTO THAT RELATIONSHIP

LISTEN YOUR WAY INTO THAT RELATIONSHIP

       You’ve just been promoted to supervisor, and you want to build a good relationship with your manager.  “What can I say to help her trust me?” you wonder.  “How can I tell her I’m the best pick for this job?” Or you’re ready to get back into the dating scene....
LOSE “BUT,” USE “AND”

LOSE “BUT,” USE “AND”

“I love you, but I wish you’d change your underwear more often.” “I love you, and I wish you’d change your underwear more often.” More than 30 years ago, family therapist Virginia Satir wisely called attention to the important difference between these two...
LOSE “BUT,” USE “AND”

FEELING FELT

Has my experience ever happened to you?  I’m in a workshop at a national conference with a group of mostly strangers.  The leader predictably asks us to participate in an icebreaker that, unpredictably, is interesting and novel.  I converse for a couple of...
How’s your Quality of Life?

How’s your Quality of Life?

Most of us have only a vague sense of what Quality of Life (QL) means. Wealth? Health? Leisure time? Fame? It seems obvious that a homeless person’s QL is lower than Donald Trump’s. Whitney Houston’s was tragically lower than Michelle Obama’s. But even these examples...